Slight update from the other day’s rant…
So, turns out I got an apology from the chick who said the bad bisexual joke. She apologized for the out of context in joke, and realized how it could be taken badly.
Thing is, she stated that her and her friend both get tons of crap for being bi. It was a joke to mock the bisexual erasure thing.
So… Here’s the thing. I stated to the “friend” that I am a bisexual, and that I originally commented on it because I didn’t find the joke funny. The “friend” seemed to completely ignore what was actually said, and instead went on a rampage about how I shouldn’t bother sharing my opinions to bisexual strangers. She also apparently continued on after I was done with it, and was spouting off bullshit about how random people shouldn’t try to “step onto her digital porch”.
It’s Twitter. Everyone is on the same damn porch. You don’t want people hearing your shit, go the fuck inside and make your tweets private. There’s totally an option for that.
Also, apparently according to the “friend”, we were having a competition for “best gay”? I… I just don’t know how to respond to that one. Obviously, I’m not going to talk to her at all. Crazy gets blocked. But dude, how the hell does one jump to “I’ll eat you alive. We’re totally fighting now.” because someone simply says that they didn’t find one joke funny?
It made no sense to me. Honestly, it made me laugh a bit. It also made me a bit sad. I mean, for someone to go through bad experiences, and then totally disregard someone else because you constantly feel under attack? Yeah, that’s gotta be a stressful life.
I do appreciate the apology from the one chick though. Again, I had respect for her before. It dropped a bit from that post, but it came back up. Like I said, she’s way more open minded and accepting. She took responsibility for poor judgement. That’s rare. Especially on Twitter.
I had to send her a thank you because she was totally civil about it. Trying to get explanations out properly in 140 characters is tough. But hey, I told her that I’ve had similar experiences. I’ve had gay people tell me I’m not “gay enough”. I’ve had straight people tell me I’m “not active” because I’m not fucking both men and women at the same time. I’ve gone through shit too, which is why I responded the way I did.
People judge. It sucks. When people can actually listen and respond like an adult, it’s appreciated.
I got judged by the “friend” harshly. She seemed territorial over a stupid joke. I hope that she eventually understands how much the joke could have hurt others, not just me, by posting it out of context. I hope that she learns to understand someone’s statement before lashing out.
Rage is an exhausting thing. Hence why I was so irritated by the original situation. I had a bad day. It pushed me too far. I ranted after the fact in hopes that I would feel better. It only improved my mood a tiny bit. It’s frustrating to state simple things and not have people understand what you are saying.
I realize that my humor doesn’t come across well a lot of times with text. Again, twitter is a stupid way to try and debate things. It’s too short of a medium for proper discussion. However, if I’ve said something that you don’t understand, and then explain my stance clearly… Well, I’m done. I don’t want to argue. It’s a waste of time. Especially if one side refuses to ever listen to anyone else.